OK, here's the deal as quickly and simply as I can put it :)
Add dash_aitch to let me see your posts and comment on them.
Add cheshrkat to see my posts on your friends list.
If in doubt, just add both accounts.
Note that LJ doesn't notify me if you comment on cheshrkat, and LJ deletes comments on feeds after two weeks. So for best results click through and comment on the blog (hey don't blame me, it's just how LJ works!).
You need to add both because - for various reasons - LJ doesn't let people to syndicate content into their journals. cheshrkat is a feed of my blog, cheshrkat.blogspot.com.